Comments on: The Arranged Marriage: Still Shtetl Fabulous?

By: My Urban Kvetch 2005

My Urban Kvetch 2005 — Wed, 20 Apr 2005 16:01:43 +0000

Make Me a Match…
Today, in business, in life, and in romance, it’s all about making matches. A few weeks ago, before I left for California, I did a singles workshop at the JCC of Manhattan called

By: Daphna

Daphna — Tue, 19 Apr 2005 18:29:39 +0000

I cannot imagine who my parents would set me up with. I do not want to imagine. Of course, the shadchanim and friends seem to be on a “super-boring men” roll, so maybe my parents could beat their track record.

Hmmm…am starting to think of throwing in the towel and buying a cat.

By: Esther

Esther — Tue, 19 Apr 2005 17:25:18 +0000

Oy, Ricker Aish. You mean you totally missed the seven thousand comments or so about the Shomer Negiah blog? Do yourself a favor and read some of our “back-issues”.

You need to be attracted to your spouse, period. But attraction’s more than external–it’s about who you are inside in combination with what you look like. (Ucch. I sound like such a girl.)

By: Ricker Aish

Ricker Aish — Tue, 19 Apr 2005 12:35:17 +0000

I was hoping to discuss why there are so many singles in the frum community in their 30’s,40
’s and beyond. There was a recent blog that highlighted this problem. Shomernegiah.blogspot.com

Is it a matter of attitude then? In the frum circles, it is common to reject someone for a reason that you don’t find the other person attractive. I have had this happen when I helped set someone up on such a date. He did not find her attractive, yet I thought that she was totally Jewlicious.

How do you break this mindset?

By: Shira

Shira — Tue, 19 Apr 2005 06:02:43 +0000

Now I’m curious… got a photo of this girl? ;P

Anyway I just wanted to add Ben-David’s post was great, definitely food for thought. I just started going out with a great guy and I”ll have to think about the questions posed on this thread… (even if it wasn’t anything near arranged by our parents – our friends set us up, heh heh)

By: shtreimel

shtreimel — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 20:30:52 +0000

Ephraim…you’re probably right

By: Ephraim

Ephraim — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 20:29:13 +0000

It was tough on him. He really loved her. But Torah was more important to him, believe it or not.

And if you had met her, you would understand what I’m talking about. Instead of saying “yuch to the power of two”, you would have said “DUUUUUuuude…….”.

By: shtreimel

shtreimel — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 20:27:51 +0000

“…why not start using Hasem?”
Huh? For whom, for what? Why am I not getting this? Buller? Buller?

By: TM

TM — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 20:25:28 +0000

Shtreimel, I was just thinking that since we already use other names, like HaShem, to remove ourselves from saying (close your eyes!!!) yhwh, why not start using Hasem?

By: shtreimel

shtreimel — Mon, 18 Apr 2005 20:15:11 +0000

Ephraim,

We agree. And your son sounds wise beyond his years.