MFD: Hello, Lydia, I’m your Fantasy Date tonight. Nice to meet you.

LS: Hi. I must say, you are very attractive. In fact, you are considerably more attractive than anyone I have ever gone out with.

MFD: Thanks for saying so. I am also well-groomed and I smell good.

LS: Are you on a dating site? How did you find me?

MFD: It’s beshert! Nah, I read your terrific bio online. Your pictures are really cute and your fake age is easily believable. And, I’m into short women, as long as they aren’t too slender.

LS: Cool. What about you? What do you like to do in your free time?

MFD: Hey, I am your Fantasy Date. Our interests, politics and outlook on life are absolutely compatible. Besides, I’d much rather pretend to be interested in what you have to say.

LS: Well, um, er . . .

MFD: . . . don’t worry at all about making a good impression. I like you a lot already.

LS: This is turning out very well. Did you have anything in mind to do this evening?

MFD: Dinner and theater? I’m thinking either sushi or Middle Eastern. Then, would you prefer a big downtown musical or a little off-loop storefront production? I have heard great things about both. If you prefer, we can stay home. I’ll cook dinner, then we can make out.

fin

By the way my husband and I studies in the same education in the same field. We even work in similar professions but we never talk those things at home.

i’m not suggesting what anyone else should be doing for their dating life. Just expressing myself and my feelings about my experience with Jdate. I do know a few people who have met and married someone through Jdate, but I think it might be the exception to the rule

First, you know how when you go to Marshall’s there’s a lot of stuff that is complete excrement? But occasionally you will find that one thing that is an absolute MUST HAVE? Well – guess what – the same is true for dating sites. Most of what’s there should be in the “mark-down” aisle, but sometimes, your beshert will be there looking for a nice jewish man or woman.

Second, why did most of you (I’d venture to say….) take prep courses before taking your SATs? BECAUSE IT INCREASED YOUR CHANCES, THAT’S WHY!!! Well, do you know ever Jewish single in the world? Does your mother or other family members? Uh, no. So going to the Jewish dating site of your choice merely increases your chances!

And last, stop all this worry about educational level. The likelihood that your eventual spouse will be exactly what you THINK you’re looking for is virtually nil. Disparities in education, experience and outlook can be wonderful.

Just get married. It’s a wonderful thing. Most of the time.

She’d subscribed to a German “friend” site (which is widely known to be for dating) and picked a username she probably found apt. The way I learnt about the name was that she’d checked her current “views” on my laptop, and I’d activated autocomplete. My best friend and my younger brother were hanging out with me when my sis was using my laptop, so after my sis had left, and we had wondered why she’d acted so strangely, we looked into the browser history, and then it only just took us going through the alphabet to find out about her username. Anyhow, I misread her username and read it out aloud as something that would translate as “snot cat” while it actually meant “red cat”. Ever since, the “snot cat” has stuck with my sis as a code name among friends and family.

As for her success on that site, she met somebody she was with for about a year, and it was quite clear from the start that this wasn’t going to end well. Both had described themselves rather favourably on their profiles, and it appears he had mostly joined the site to escape his mother’s nagging (which spread onto about any gf he had ever had; her wish for him to get active in restricted dating basically was a way of controlling his dating behaviour).

Rule-of-thumb, leave your mothers out of your dating lives. A sound partner will respect your mother, but will not want a mere copy or a willing puppet of hers for a partner. Be yourself if you want somebody to like / love the true you.

There are dating venues that reek of despair, e.g. parties designed for over thirty-year-olds are nicknamed “leftover-fucking” or “rotting meat parties” here. This isn’t nice, but you get the idea.